Unconditional Love

Okay, I think it's about time this is covered.

Thank you Hema, for bringing up the topic. I'll dissect this as fairly as I can and weigh both sides of the argument as much as possible.

Love is NOT unconditional
This statement is true. But only in regards to certain types of love between people. I said that real love is unconditional and I still stand by my statement. Maybe I should turn it around:

Unconditional love is real.

It's the real deal, people.

Hema, I know you disregarded your 'divorce' example, but I'd like to address it anyway. Love between a parent and child doesn't always have to be unconditional. Why do you think there are orphans in the world? Why do you think children get abused? And then again there is the 'divorce' part of it. If there was real love in that marriage, do you think it would end in a divorce?

Sure, you can argue the point that the divorce could have been best for both parties. But if that's the case, then I don't think that they would have gotten married in the first place. If they really loved each other, they wouldn't have rushed anything, they would have stayed true to each other and they wouldn't have held each other down. And what could go wrong in a marriage like that, right?

But that would mean loving someone who has hurt you multiple times
Yup, that's absolutely right. And human nature demands that forgiving someone for that is extremely hard. Not to say that it's a piece of cake, but it's not impossible either. To be capable of loving someone unconditionally, an individual has to be very secure about who they are and know what they do and do not deserve.

Just because you still love a person, doesn't mean that you have to chase after them and give up everything you have for them to throw it back into your face. It just means, that if they come running back to you, you'll still be willing to accept them. That you won't hold anything against them. That other people can say and think what they want about you without it affecting how you act or think.

Sure, it can and probably will hurt. The disappointment burning more than anything. But it's not impossible. As corny as it sounds, the individual would have to be the bigger person, and accept that no one is perfect. They would have to be able to accept the fact that they probably won't be loved the same way in return. It calls for a whole lot of understanding.

I know what I have said so far may sound insane and completely contrary to what a human being would do, but it still IS possible.

After reading this post, it's easy to say. Yeah, that'll never happen. But you have to remember that there are some who don't posses the human selfishness that everyone is expected to have. There are some, selfless enough to be able to love unconditionally. Sure, they may be scorned and laughed at...but it won't stop them. People might say it's more logical to NOT love unconditionally, but that's the point...isn't it? It ISN'T logical.

Love isn't a feeling. Infatuation is, and lust is, but not love. Those things are part of love on the whole (depending on the individuals involved).

It has a lot to do with hormones and stuff
No it doesn't. I think you have mixed up the definition of love with that of attraction. Attraction has A LOT to do with hormones, but love hasn't got anything to do with it.

YES, I may have ruined any preconceived ideas of what love is. YES, I have probably taken the fun out of being 'in love'. Sure, the world will say other things, but I've learned to keep that stuff out when forming my own opinion.

Hema, you are absolutely right when you say that it is a very round about thing. It's one of the most confusing topics to address. I'll never be able to cover all aspects of it. Even if I sit here for the rest of my life, never pausing to eat, sleep, or have a potty break.

Because I can't provide you with the whole explanation about love and what it is, I have given you the next thing that I can. My opinion about it. I understand that not everyone will share this opinion. Feel free to counter what I say (in a civilised manner) and express your own views on the matter.

:)

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