Friday, 25 January 2008
This caught my attention. I bet you know why too. I mean, seriously, how difficult is it to understand that love has more than one meaning??
I love gum.
That doesn't mean I have to marry it.
The close-mindedness of some of the people I come into contact with drive me up the wall. Nobody needs an excuse to love. It's something that everyone is granted the right to. Duh.
This is also a reminder of how we need to let things go. Who cares what other people think? The only opinion that matters, is one that you allow to. In reality, nothing matters until you let it.
A rumour has started about you? So? The only new thing that is happening is that they are spending time talking about you and thinking about what you are doing. It's not a bad thing, because you know that it's not true.
So what if they are saying that you are a ***** that ****** ** *** ****? You know you didn't do it, and that's what matters.
Real friends stick around in sticky situations like this. If they don't, well, maybe their positions should be reconsidered. How can you call someone a friend if they don't stick around? What gives you the impression that they will stick up for you?
But then again, never expect something that you cannot provide. You can't expect your friends to stick around if you wont for them. You can't expect them to stick up for you if you are the one spreading rumours about them.
I find that friendship is taken too lightly nowadays. Yes, I may sound crazy right now, but hear me out. With all these 'cliques' forming all around us, friendship has become more of a popularity contest than anything. You have to fit in. My understanding of friendship completely contrasts that.
You are supposed to be your weird, quirky, troubled self and have people like you for that. THOSE are friends. Not the losers who suck up like anything or expect you to be perfect and able to solve all their problems.
In a way, friends can solve all your problems. Just by being there. I know personally that silent company can be one of the most comforting things in the world. Just to have someone sit by you when you are down. It's nice to know that they are there. Even if they aren't saying anything. It's enough.
Not to say friendship is easy though. It can borderline heartache at times. But in the end, it's all worth it. It is hard to give up friends. To have someone ripped out of your life. It hurts even more when they willingly step out of it as you sit and watch them go.
Upon being presented with this situation. You only have a few choices. You could chase after them until you can't anymore, you could shout angrily after them and remain bitter for the rest of your life, or you could choose to allow them to go. Allow them to step away and pray that they grow as a person and be happy.
What do you think a real friend would do?
No doubt you'd feel pain, but it is something that everyone is presented with at least once in their lives. It's how they deal with it that makes the difference. Makes them who they are and what they become. Letting go is hard, but keeping in mind the fact that the other person will be happy, it becomes slightly easier.
A real friend isn't selfish.