Hi people. I'm back with one of those entries that you KNOW you love.
The topic is kinda obvious [look up].
Right. SO labels. What are they?? They are basically made for the sole purpose of classifying something. Or in this case...someone.
I find that people tend to label themselves and others WAAAY too often nowadays. Is it necessary? Uh...I don't think so. I think that most of it is due to insecurity. Due to the fact that they need a security blanket (label) to hide under. They basically tell the world that they are a certain way. Don't they wanna have their own person?? I know I rather would.
Oh wait. That's right, Amanda. How could you be so dumb? There are DIFFERENT types of labels.
Sheesh. Get a life. They are all the same.
Look. You get those sterotypes:
- Dumb Jock
- Band Geek
- Nerd
- Bitchy Cheerleader
- Dumb Blonde
The list goes on and on. But do you know whom these labels are for?? Let me show you:
- Dumb Jock -Someone who is good at sports
- Band Geek - A skilled musician
- Nerd - Someone who gets higher marks than you because they actually have a plan for their future
- Bitchy Cheerleader - Someone who is waaaaay more flexible and most likely, lighter than you
- Dumb Blonde - Someone who had the 'misfortune' of being born with blonde hair
Looks a lot dumber now huh?
And how about this:
Insecure 1: Hey!
Insecure 2: Hey! Did you have a good time at the party?
Insecure 1: Yeah! I met a load of people. One of them was even gay!
Sound familiar? Well, look how idiotic it seems if we turn the tables:
Bob: Hey!
Jim: Hey! Did you have a good time at the party?
Bob: Yeah! I met a load of people. One of them was even straight!
Uh...riiight. I that makes A LOT of sense...
See how dumb it is when you get down to the center of it all? People should be classified as people. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. I mean yeah, you can stay away from people labelled 'axe murderer' I guess, but maybe you should rethink with the whole stereotyping people.
And get to know them before you even THINK of calling them dumb.
Saturday, 27 October 2007
Thursday, 25 October 2007
BOOM! SKID! AHHHH!
You wanna guess what this entry is about?
Yup.
The bus ride yesterday. IT. WAS. AWESOME. I'm actually quite happy about the fact that it was MY bus that it happened to. Though I had a ton of fun and laugh off the experience, I realise that it was a dangerous situation. The bus could have tipped over. (Not to scare you guys or anything)
What happened was the tyre burst and somehow managed to come off and went behind the rim. Yup. It looked quite freaky. So we waited at the side of the highway until a very nice bus driver came along and volunteered to drive us to the rest stop. (I don't know if he was paid or not. I doubt it.) We were told our parents were all informed, but surprise, surprise...they weren't. STOP FEEDING US LIES I SAY!! STOP!!
*ahem*
Anyway, I had a very good conversation with the mother, klutz and duck. It was REALLY good. Especially since I was partially high. I felt kinda mean shooing everyone away, but we HAD to. They would have broken the train of thought we had going on. It was an insightful conversation that I wouldn't trade for a lot of things that I shan't list, lest be condemned to sitting here my whole life...
[I'm wordy]
So yeah. I learnt some new things about them, me and people in general. Some of the stuff was really lame, but some went a bit deeper than that. I doubt we are gonna get an opportunity like that anytime soon...
ANYVAY. I am blogging to tell you that I had an awesome tme with them and that being back in Malacca was a thrill. The air was so refreshing...I know about pollution but you have to understand how nice it is to smell familiar air. I was even having fun waiting in the hot sun for the slow RED HOUSE MEMBERS to show up. The atmosphere was one of the best thingies ever. I have a tan now. Don't care.
The 'deep' entry will be coming soon. I have all the ideas, but wanted to get this down asap. Enjoy.
Yup.
The bus ride yesterday. IT. WAS. AWESOME. I'm actually quite happy about the fact that it was MY bus that it happened to. Though I had a ton of fun and laugh off the experience, I realise that it was a dangerous situation. The bus could have tipped over. (Not to scare you guys or anything)
What happened was the tyre burst and somehow managed to come off and went behind the rim. Yup. It looked quite freaky. So we waited at the side of the highway until a very nice bus driver came along and volunteered to drive us to the rest stop. (I don't know if he was paid or not. I doubt it.) We were told our parents were all informed, but surprise, surprise...they weren't. STOP FEEDING US LIES I SAY!! STOP!!
*ahem*
Anyway, I had a very good conversation with the mother, klutz and duck. It was REALLY good. Especially since I was partially high. I felt kinda mean shooing everyone away, but we HAD to. They would have broken the train of thought we had going on. It was an insightful conversation that I wouldn't trade for a lot of things that I shan't list, lest be condemned to sitting here my whole life...
[I'm wordy]
So yeah. I learnt some new things about them, me and people in general. Some of the stuff was really lame, but some went a bit deeper than that. I doubt we are gonna get an opportunity like that anytime soon...
ANYVAY. I am blogging to tell you that I had an awesome tme with them and that being back in Malacca was a thrill. The air was so refreshing...I know about pollution but you have to understand how nice it is to smell familiar air. I was even having fun waiting in the hot sun for the slow RED HOUSE MEMBERS to show up. The atmosphere was one of the best thingies ever. I have a tan now. Don't care.
The 'deep' entry will be coming soon. I have all the ideas, but wanted to get this down asap. Enjoy.
Monday, 22 October 2007
Think about this.
Check this:
'A good friend accepts you for who you are, but a REAL friend won't let you stay that way.'
Okay. Take a moment to think about that statement. What does it mean?
People are always (sorry if I am generalising) under the impression that friends will accept you just the way you are and leave it at that. Sure, there is nothing wrong with that. But they are also under the impression that is the way it should be: that friends are accepting of who you are as a person. This is true, but then there is also the fact that everybody has faults and imperfections. Do you think you would be a real friend to someone if you let them stay the way they are?? I don't.
Maybe it would help with an example:
Say that there were three friends. Bob, Tom and Jim have known each other their whole lives. They get along really well and know each other to the tiniest of details. (That means that they are aware of each other's faults too.)
Now, one day, Bob mixes with the wrong crowd and gets himself addicted to drugs. Of course his friends are there to give their support and are willing to help him beat it out. But guess what. After a while, Bob decides that he DOESN'T want to beat it and would rather just continue taking drugs.
Tom accepts his friends decision and allows him to do what he wants. He even goes as far as HELPING his friend obtain the drugs. Jim, however, has other plans. Jim goes and tracks Bob down and gives him warnings as well as promises his help and support to get him out of the situation. Bob uses 'if you were my friend, you would accept and respect my decision' to try and get Jim off his back. Jim isn't dumb. Instead of listening to what Bob says, he puts his foot down and beats up the guy. All the while telling him that he better change.
In the end, Bob stops doing drugs. He stays friends with Tom but can no longer look Jim in the eye and tries to avoid him. You know what? Jim doesn't care. Bob stopped and that is all that matters to him.
That's right. A REAL friend should be willing to sacrifice their friendship with you for your benefit. When you say "If you were my friend, you would accept me" just be careful. Would you really want your friends to 'accept' you and watch you rot before their eyes because you chose to do so? If they point out your flaws, call you out on a mistake you made or even threaten you to get you to stop doing something, just realise that they are helping you out.
At the same time, don't be afraid to do the same thing to them. Don't take this reasoning as an excuse to make fun of your friends and insult them. No. This is just supposed to make you realise that a REAL friend is someone you accepts you, but always wants you to change for the better.
I know this is already relevant in some situations. Don't hate the friends who try to change you (for the better), love them more. Remember, they are only looking out for you. :)
'A good friend accepts you for who you are, but a REAL friend won't let you stay that way.'
Okay. Take a moment to think about that statement. What does it mean?
People are always (sorry if I am generalising) under the impression that friends will accept you just the way you are and leave it at that. Sure, there is nothing wrong with that. But they are also under the impression that is the way it should be: that friends are accepting of who you are as a person. This is true, but then there is also the fact that everybody has faults and imperfections. Do you think you would be a real friend to someone if you let them stay the way they are?? I don't.
Maybe it would help with an example:
Say that there were three friends. Bob, Tom and Jim have known each other their whole lives. They get along really well and know each other to the tiniest of details. (That means that they are aware of each other's faults too.)
Now, one day, Bob mixes with the wrong crowd and gets himself addicted to drugs. Of course his friends are there to give their support and are willing to help him beat it out. But guess what. After a while, Bob decides that he DOESN'T want to beat it and would rather just continue taking drugs.
Tom accepts his friends decision and allows him to do what he wants. He even goes as far as HELPING his friend obtain the drugs. Jim, however, has other plans. Jim goes and tracks Bob down and gives him warnings as well as promises his help and support to get him out of the situation. Bob uses 'if you were my friend, you would accept and respect my decision' to try and get Jim off his back. Jim isn't dumb. Instead of listening to what Bob says, he puts his foot down and beats up the guy. All the while telling him that he better change.
In the end, Bob stops doing drugs. He stays friends with Tom but can no longer look Jim in the eye and tries to avoid him. You know what? Jim doesn't care. Bob stopped and that is all that matters to him.
That's right. A REAL friend should be willing to sacrifice their friendship with you for your benefit. When you say "If you were my friend, you would accept me" just be careful. Would you really want your friends to 'accept' you and watch you rot before their eyes because you chose to do so? If they point out your flaws, call you out on a mistake you made or even threaten you to get you to stop doing something, just realise that they are helping you out.
At the same time, don't be afraid to do the same thing to them. Don't take this reasoning as an excuse to make fun of your friends and insult them. No. This is just supposed to make you realise that a REAL friend is someone you accepts you, but always wants you to change for the better.
I know this is already relevant in some situations. Don't hate the friends who try to change you (for the better), love them more. Remember, they are only looking out for you. :)
Hugs. Are. Good.
That's right people.
A study has been done (I don't know where...don't ask) and it has been proven that a person needs four hugs a day in order to grow emotionally. Surprised? I know you didn't see something like this coming. :)
But think about it for a bit and you'll see that it actually makes sense. Look, here is the list of reasons people hug each other:
- As a show of support.
- In happiness.
- To greet an old friend.
- To say goodbye.
- Just to show someone that you care.
There are more reasons, but I would be here for a while. These are the main ones. If I have missed another one, just leave a comment or something. As you can see, all the reasons are linked to emotions. Therefore the above statement makes complete sense.
Can you imagine going your whole life without a single hug? Not only would you be a lonely person, but you'd also be angry because you basically wouldn't know how to love.
No love = No feeling
You would basically fail as a person. Sure, this is an extreme example, but it wakes people up to the reality of the situation. I'm gonna have to bring up that camp again...
When we were at the camp, it kept being forced down our throats that hugging was good. There was this one 'venting' session where either your counsellor or your team mates would yell at you if they thought that you hadn't been giving everything you got. It was loud and involved a lot of banging and crying. Emotions again. The rants would also have to end with 'I love you' and a hug. See what I mean??
The point that they were trying to get across was emotional 'completion' is a vital part of success. I agree. So you know what this means right? Now that hugs are illegal at school, you are gonna have to find another way to get the support. Or do it illegally. ;)
A study has been done (I don't know where...don't ask) and it has been proven that a person needs four hugs a day in order to grow emotionally. Surprised? I know you didn't see something like this coming. :)
But think about it for a bit and you'll see that it actually makes sense. Look, here is the list of reasons people hug each other:
- As a show of support.
- In happiness.
- To greet an old friend.
- To say goodbye.
- Just to show someone that you care.
There are more reasons, but I would be here for a while. These are the main ones. If I have missed another one, just leave a comment or something. As you can see, all the reasons are linked to emotions. Therefore the above statement makes complete sense.
Can you imagine going your whole life without a single hug? Not only would you be a lonely person, but you'd also be angry because you basically wouldn't know how to love.
No love = No feeling
You would basically fail as a person. Sure, this is an extreme example, but it wakes people up to the reality of the situation. I'm gonna have to bring up that camp again...
When we were at the camp, it kept being forced down our throats that hugging was good. There was this one 'venting' session where either your counsellor or your team mates would yell at you if they thought that you hadn't been giving everything you got. It was loud and involved a lot of banging and crying. Emotions again. The rants would also have to end with 'I love you' and a hug. See what I mean??
The point that they were trying to get across was emotional 'completion' is a vital part of success. I agree. So you know what this means right? Now that hugs are illegal at school, you are gonna have to find another way to get the support. Or do it illegally. ;)
Sunday, 21 October 2007
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